Wednesday, September 8, 2010

7 Darn Good Reasons Why You Should Tell Me A Story

by Daphne Gray-Grant
Daphne Gray-Grant is a writing and editing coach and the author of the popular book 8½ Steps to Writing Faster, Better. She offers a brief and free weekly newsletter on her website. Subscribe by going to the Publication Coach.

Few things please a child -- or, for that matter, an adult -- as much as a story. Do you want to improve your writing? In today's column I look at the value of storytelling.

A group of judges is gathered in court. But instead of looking grand and imperial in their robes, they appear to be naked. And, puzzlingly, they are arrayed, under blankets, in a selection of beds spread out behind the bench.

No, let me reassure you this didn't happen in real life. It's simply a cartoon from the New Yorker. A lone lawyer stands at a microphone in front of the justices receiving instructions. The caption? "O.K., counsellor, we heard your argument. Now tell us a story."

Most parents of three-year-olds can probably relate to this cartoon. But so should you! Telling stories -- and telling them well -- is probably the single most important job facing any writer. And guess what? Stories aren't just for novelists. They're for everyone from the CEO to his or her most junior communications staffer.
Here are 7 reasons why you should work hard at telling more stories in your non-fiction writing:

1) Stories have a natural rhythm. Tell a story and you'll automatically start with the most interesting material. At the same time, you'll give details exactly where they belong and you'll end by reinforcing the key point you want to make. This kind of structure gives you a big, paint-by-numbers approach to your work. It helps make writing easier and less painful.

2) Stories humanize the realities of the business world. Have you ever sat through speeches and started to drift off into ZZZZZ-land as the speakers rambled on about statistics or core values? And, yet, didn't you snap to attention when they suddenly told you a story about something that happened in the office or, better yet, a story about their own non-work lives? We're all hardwired to love stories. Growing up and getting a serious job doesn't change that one iota.

3) Stories carry a sense of momentum; they have their own natural tension. The middle of a good story leaves the reader wondering, "Yeah, and what happened, next?" As a writer, isn't that exactly what you want -- readers desperate for your next sentence?

4) Stories are sticky, or, in other words, memorable. More than 16 years ago (I know the timeframe because it was before my children were born) I heard a radio interview with career coach Barbara Sher, author of I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What it Was. This woman is a masterful speaker and I'll never forget her story about a cab driver who wanted to become a cake baker. Sher advised the driver to launch her career by baking "surprise" and anonymous cakes for major public events. Turns out, the woman succeeded by having one of her cakes cause a big (and positive) sensation at an event in Chicago. While I wouldn't advise that approach now, post 9/11, I highly recommend telling memorable stories. That I remembered this cake anecdote for 16 years should be a testament to the theory.

5) Stories force you to use concrete language. People get into writing trouble when they start using too many abstract words. You know what I mean -- Superman's motto of "truth, justice, and the American Way" is a great example of abstract language. Instead, better writers talk about things you can touch, taste, smell and hear -- concrete words. Such language helps create visual images in the readers' minds. If I say the word "association" do you get a clear visual image? Probably not! But if I say, desk, or flower or dog, your mind's eye likely creates a picture. Add even a simple verb -- such as, "sits," "smells" or "barks" and the picture is clearer. Stories will keep you in the world of the concrete. Strong visual images = good writing.

6) Stories will help make your writing more believable. I don't know about you but I've always been astonished by the number of movies and TV shows that make a big deal about being based on true stories. (Frankly, I always think good fiction is more amazing!) But there's something in the human psyche that loves the concept of being true to life. Tell your own stories and you'll be satisfying a basic human need.

7) Stories allow people to persuade themselves of the point you're trying to make. You then simply become the person who is presenting the evidence. And the better your stories, the more persuasive you will be.


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Monday, August 30, 2010

Losing "My Little Girl"

Written Works Collection: Poetry

My little girl is now five feet, six inches tall
I remember when she was small
Where did the time go?
Now, I slowly have to let go, for she is all grown
Winnie the Pooh, “Green Eggs and Ham” by Dr. Seuss, Barbie and Brat dolls,
for a time, was all she knew
Choir, drama, art, fashion and boys are her new passions
Mature beyond her years, she is a natural leader
At times she graces me with long talks and
gives me a hug and jokingly says I am “old”
It won’t be long before high school is a cherished memory
and she will be on another journey
To live her life as she wants it to be, while furthering
her education at a well known University
I remember when… is all I can say
I look forward to her graduation, new career, marriage and
 best of all, having grandchildren


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Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Can You Write Through Anger?


I find that the best times that I can write is when I am calm, at peace, stress free, etc. However, this state only last so long. My life, just like everyone else, is filled with outside forces that may get in the way of our ideal writing environment. In times of sadness or nostalgia, I can write some of my best poetry. I am very reflective about life, love, family and friends.

When I am angry I cannot write at all. This emotion blocks any and all creativity I might have. Depending on what is causing me to be angry, determines how long I go without writing.

How do you manage to write through anger?


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Friday, August 6, 2010

Stuck for a topic? Here's how the Internet Helps

by Sean D'Souza

If you're trying to write articles, the chances are that you'll be
up early in the morning trying to get your brain cells churning,
right? Not really. Most people actually do quite the opposite.

They'll sit down to write an article when all the rest of the work
is done. And that's when they're most tired. Try thinking up
something when you're tired, and you run into a wall of concrete.
You can't even think up a topic, let alone any sub-topics.

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So how do you break through this wall to find your topics?
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You do what all of us do. You fire up your computer, and go online.
And now you're on a five-minute treasure hunt to find topics. In
fact if you follow the instructions below, this treasure hunt will
be over and done with, in five minutes. And ten-fifteen minutes
later, you'll have a wealth of topics and sub-topics.

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So let's take it step by step.
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Step 1: Go to a site like Amazon.com or Dummies.com
Step 2: Find the topic you're interested in.
Step 3: Find the contents page of the book.
Step 4: Copy two or three sub-topics.

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So let's say I wanted to write on some random topic that I know
nothing about: Like gardening.
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Instantly I find several books (and each book becomes a sort of
topic).
1) Composting For Dummies
2) Container Gardening
3) Feng Shui for Gardens

Yay, now all I have to do is look inside the contents pages of one
book:
Note: In this case the gardening led me to Feng Shui.

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And instantly I get 25 sub-topics
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Part I: Getting Started: Feng Shui Basics.
Chapter 1: Discovering the Benefits of Feng Shui.
Chapter 2: Key Feng Shui Principles.
Chapter 3: Reading the Vibes and Using the Feng Shui Octagon.
Chapter 4: Exploring Your Feng Shui Cure Toolbox.
Changing the spirit of the place: Using ceremony to create a new
feeling.
Chapter 5: Tapping the Power of the Five Elements.
Chapter 6: The Magic of Intention and Reinforcement.

Part II: Outdoor Feng Shui: Energizing Your Home's Exterior.
Chapter 7: Improving the Energy of Your Lot, Landscape, and House
Exterior.
Chapter 8: Making the Most of Your Lot and House Shape.
Chapter 9: Open Sesame! Your Entryway and Entrance.

Part III: Indoor Feng Shui: Boosting the Energy of Your Home and
Office.
Chapter 10: Making Sense of Your Home's Layout.
Chapter 11: Jazzing Up Your Bedroom for Increased Health, Energy,
and Romance.
Chapter 12: Nourishing Health and Wealth in the Kitchen.
Chapter 13: Applying Feng Shui to the Main Areas of Your Home.
Chapter 14: Parts Is Parts: Other Important Areas of the House.
Chapter 15: Powerful Ways to Boost Your Home's Energy.
Chapter 16: Using Feng Shui to Enhance Your Career.

Part IV: Special Feng Shui: Performing Ceremonies and Personal
Cures.
Chapter 17: Invisible Factors and Feng Shui Blessing Ceremonies.
Chapter 18: Exploring Personal Feng Shui Adjustment Methods.

Part V: The Part of Tens.
Chapter 19: Ten Principles for Success with Your Feng Shui.
Chapter 20: Ten (+1) Ways to Increase Wealth and Stimulate Cash
Flow: Show Me the Money!
Chapter 21: Ten Ways to Create Harmony in Your Marriage (Or Find
That Perfect Partner).
Chapter 22: Ten Ways to Enjoy Better Health with Feng Shui.
Chapter 23: Ten Tips for Selling, Finding, and Buying a House.
Chapter 24: Ten Tips for Apartment, Condo, and Townhouse Living.
Chapter 25: Ten Unique Calligraphies to Bless Your Life.

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Whoa, that's about 23 more sub-topics than I needed.
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But hey, I'm well on my way. Now I have my topics and sub-topics.
And I can now take any sub-topic and then create sub-sub-topic or
angles. And even as I'm doing this, the thought does cross my mind:
Is this cheating?

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So are you cheating when you copy the topics?
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You would be cheating if you copied the content, but topics
themselves are just topics. It starts to get serious when you copy
word for word, sequence by sequence.

If you just get your inspiration by choosing topics, there's no
problem at all. If you feel uncomfortable using the exact title of
the topic, you can also tweak it to suit yourself. e.g. Ten Unique
Calligraphies to Bless Your Life can become Ten Calligraphies to
Create Happiness At Dinner.

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Whatever you do, stick to the online book stores (or offline
stores, if you choose).
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Don't go rambling through Google or some other search engine.
Online book stores have order as part of their system. It's easy to
find a book, easy to find a table of contents, and easy to then get
what you need.

If you land up on Google and search random sites, you'll waste
container loads of time because you'll need to re-focus on every
new website you land on. You'll need to work out how the content is
placed, where it's located, Blah, Blah, Blah, Blah, Blah, Blah,
Blah, Blah, Blah, Blah, Blah.

And that's just a big headache you don't need. A bookstore is the
best place.

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And one book will keep you busy for a while...
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You get dozens of topics from just one book. And guess what? There
will be at least fifty (if not fifteen hundred books) on your
specific subject. So you'll be going a long time before you run out
of topics and sub-topics. However, there's a danger of doing too
much.

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Which is why you should avoid working on more than two-three topics
at a time
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If you have too many topics you're working on, you'll be confused.
You'll have way too much choice and then struggle (remember you're
tired when you're doing this assignment).

And the factor of having to choose whether you're going to tackle
Topic 14 or Topic 25 is just too hard to resist. You'll go round in
circles and then crash when you run out of energy.

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So let's summarise:
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1) Topics are easy to find. Any online bookstore will provide at
least a few thousand topics.
2) Stick to the online bookstores. It's easy to get lost on the
Internet.
3) Avoid more than two-three topics at a time.

The next time you're ready to write your topic, try doing it the
first thing in the morning, when your brain is rested. However
should you find that the midnight oil is the only recourse for you,
make sure you jump online.

15 minutes later, you should be raring to go.
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What has helped you find topics to write about?

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Tuesday, July 27, 2010

LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH






















Written Works Collection: Poetry


Love is not enough when things get tough
and you look up to the sky to hold back
the tears in your eyes.

Love is not enough when anger and bad
thoughts come, there are some things
that cannot be undone.

Love is not enough when you say or do
things that hurt, putting you in a place
that you had wanted to forget.

Love is not enough when the bills are
piled high and you can’t catch up,
no matter how hard you try.

Love is not enough when life happens
around you, and all you can do is pray
for strength to survive and resist
the temptation to run and hide.

Love is not enough, at the end of the
day, to make the pain go away.


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